Category: Blog
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The gauntlet of conditional love deals with its distortions by using the four pillars
The four pillars or another way of referring to the tools of your existential immune system. This includes proper use of anxiety and anger, conflict embracement, self-regard, and evolutionary based thinking. For example, when growing up it seemed that to be loved Jonny had to be a high achiever, be perfect, minimize his own needs…
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In a tight, trapped, & spirit contained experience you need to BE the universe & you will be free!
We can use the awareness that spirit can be trapped by negative realities, like chronic pain, but cannot be contained. Spirit is defined by infinite possibilities and opportunities for us. It is one of the greatest tools we have at our disposal. You are about to do something difficult, say, take a test. You are…
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We are wonderous existential landscapes
We have all seen movies that have amazing special effects, showing us things that can seem real, but are not. This article is going to ask you to envision something that is entirely real, but seldom “seen.” We are told by anthropologist that human beings have a deep yearning for the landscape of the savannah.…
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What is your existential maturity and functionality?
In the early days of computing, there was phrase used to indicate that no illusions were created to present information. It was “WYSIWYG” or what you see is what you get. That concept is what underlies existential maturity and functionality. The existentially mature person is one who operates with transparency and authenticity. They are someone…
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Use a sense of urgency rating:
Look at your ultimate goals & your momentary goals by existential measures. Existential goals are not linear, they are all inclusive and the definition of being alive. You accomplish existential goals by letting your experience guide you from what you don’t want to what you do want. and then paying attention to the small changes…
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Chronic pain causes a fracture. You need to reassemble your Humpty Dumpty self and you need all the pieces
When you develop chronic pain through accident or disease, you can think you and your world are falling apart. You may come to believe that nothing is strong enough to bring your life back to a functioning whole. Like Humpty Dumpty, you need all the king’s men and women, especially you, to put yourself back…
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Optional Stressors
Optional stressors are usually created by negative belief systems, judgmental thinking, rationalizations, assumptions, and magical thinking. Don’t base your definition of your experience on these things. Instead, allow your perception, thinking, and feelings, to be based on awareness not opinions. You can avoid any artificial stressors when you deal with negative realities in this fashion.…
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The weight of chronic pain is the weight of your suffering
While it is popular to think that suffering builds character, we have found that suffering instead creates existential weight, and unravels character. You can speak to your experience in many ways. Something happens: you didn’t get elected to the office you were seeking, you didn’t get the job you wanted, your pet died, your break…